Testimonial 1:
I always thought that being sick, feeling overwhelmed and having limitations are just life. I was under the impression if you can’t remember it, it doesn’t have any influence on you. I also didn’t know that only 10% of what is on my mind I am conscious about.
I remember my first session with Dr Ilza, I told her that I do not need psychotherapy. My relationship was not very good with my parents, my health was going downhill, my weight was increasing and there were some situations that made me feel very anxious, for example flying or even visiting a hospital. I started to feel dizzy when attending church. Memories from my past made me cry, but hey, you can always blame hormones for feeling sad. Although I had some issues I definitely did not need a “shrink”. What was happening to me was only part of life.
Looking back, I can only laugh at myself. Today I ask myself. What if I started sooner with psychotherapy (hypnotherapy)?
January I will be celebrating my 40th birthday. Approaching this big day, one cannot help but to reflect on your life. I realized throughout the years that you have two options. Accept your limits or do something about it. Hide under your bed or fight back. Feel rejected or feel accepted.
I didn’t fully understand how my subconscious mind was working. Today I realized that my past experiences influenced the way I think, feel and act. You do not have to accept your limitations. I believe the enemy came to steal, kill and destroy. God came so that we may live a happy and healthy life. Today I choose to take my authority and accept responsibility for my life.
My journey before psychotherapy (hypnotherapy): I was born in the summer of 1979. When I was little, my mom re-married and I never saw my father again. Just one day at the social workers office in Meyerspark I was informed that hey, guess what, you have a new father. You also have a new surname. You will stay in a new house and get a new family. I stayed with my mom and “new father” during my school years. My “new” father was very emotionally abusive. I remember during school holidays I spent time with my grandparents. My mom’s side of the family were always so loving and caring. Get togethers were filled with fun and laughter. I remember when my cousins got hurt they would run to their parents. I remember being very stressed not to get hurt as I will not have someone to run to. I was very careful not to get hurt, because people will realize my parents are not there. I felt lonely but were getting very good at hiding it. I never could understand why my firsts father, or second father did not like or want me. What was wrong with me? What did I do wrong? Why don’t they love me? The sad truth was I was thinking, if both my fathers didn’t love me, how can God love me. I was such a good kid. Growing up I was the best people pleaser you have ever met. Just before my 16th birthday I decided to go and look for my biological father. I knocked on many doors before finally in August 1994, there I was standing at a door. He opened the door and I immediately knew he was my father. My father loved rugby. He is a huge blue bull supporter. He is the best project manager I have ever met. He loved to party and always made jokes. I tried to work on our relationship, but it felt like a mess. My father felt that he was the worst dad and not good enough for me. I just wanted a dad. Did not care about what he did or didn’t do. I stayed with my father during 1995 and a part of 1996. The fact is that the whole situation was so complicated. We did not know how to handle what we were feeling. The past is behind us. Why do we feel the way we feel? While I was staying with my dad he became distant and I did not feel welcome anymore. My health started to deteriorate fast. I kept on getting ear infections. I started to gain weight for the first time in my life. My dreams of meeting my father and lived happily ever after crashed down on me. I moved out, finished my matric, got a job and place to stay.
For many years after that I tried everything in my power to keep a good relationship with my dad. My health became even worse, I cried daily, my weight was getting out of control. I was diagnosed with PCOS, Hypothyroidism and Hypertension. Between 2000 and 2015 my health was deteriorating very fast. My eating habits was very healthy. I tried everything. Went to doctors, specialists, gynecologists, Chinese doctors, SCIO machines, acupuncture, homeopaths, you name it I have tried it. Although my mom and grandparents raised me with Christian believes, I did not go to God, because I felt if my dad didn’t love me, why will God help me.
During June 2015 I was diagnosed with Cushing’s Disease. How is it possible? How can this happen to me? To sit in a doctor’s office and hear that you have a tumor on your pituitary gland is a life changing event. Brain surgery? Me? I never had serious health issues before 2000. What changed during the year 2000? Why did this happen? On 16 October 2015 I went for an IPSS procedure following my Transsphenoidal endoscopic pituitary surgery on 24 November 2015. Before my surgery I visited Dr Ilza and I was treated in hypnosis. My mind became so focused and it feels like I can concentrate like a super hero. I asked my subconscious mind where the tumor is and why I got the tumor. I saw a tumor filled with lots of water. Going deeper into the session I found out that the water was all the tears I cried for my father. After my surgery my doctor said the tumor was not like other tumors he removed. This tumor was filled with lots of watery stuff. I am convinced that my unresolved issues with my father had a direct impact on my health. Recovery from Cushing’s disease is another story. I am 3 years post-surgery and still recovering. I recovered from the surgery itself, but the scars of Cushing’s disease are still there. My tumor secreted excess ACTH and my whole body was affected by this horrible tumor. Trauma is not going anywhere. You need to sort it out, with professional qualified Psychotherapist that are an expert in their field, like Dr van Wyk. Without proper therapy, the trauma in your subconscious mind will pile up and one day you will be unable to cope. My brother in law passed away during September 2017. I was unable to handle the trauma of the brain tumor and now the loss of a dear family member.
With God’s Grace I met Dr Ilza van Wyk and she changed my life. We only get one life. Psychotherapy (hypnotherapy) is like removing a huge tree without destroying the garden. I worked through my roots, all tangled together. Very interesting how one incident can influence so many other. During my session I go in trance (a hypnotic state), meaning that I feel so calm and relaxed that I can remember anything. Dr Ilza does psychotherapy while I am in a focused state. The changes I made in trance are automatically implemented in my daily life. I do not have to walk around saying quotes or try to convince myself to feel different. Clinical Hypnotherapy provides a structured procedure to accurately identify, re-experience and reframe causative, hidden subconscious faulty beliefs enabling a gratifying freedom of mind and body. It works!
Tomorrow is never promised. Your health is the one thing that you need to treasure every day. Life is a journey. Today I take my authority that Jesus gave me and take the responsibility to treasure my body. I am so thankful and blessed that God equipped Dr Ilza van Wyk and gave her the courage and wisdom to help me live a better life. Dr van Wyk always treats me with respect without judging me. She takes her time to fully understand what I feel, and she really works very hard to make sure you show improvement. There were thousands of little improvements, things that I do daily with less anxiety. Dr van Wyk is always extremely professional and is always up to date with the latest research and her knowledge of her area of expertise is on another level. I am truly blessed to have Dr Ilza as my doctor. Today I can fly in a helicopter and have lots of fun! I can go through an MRI relaxed. An ambulance can drive past me without me feeling anxious. I can drive past Loftus without getting an anxiety attack. My relationships are healthy. I no longer feel rejected. I can go for all my blood tests without fainting and getting panic attacks. I have a better relationship with my Father in Heaven. I can forgive. I feel at peace when thinking about my past and my two dads that only tried their best. I feel joy and have peace. I am truly blessed and thankful. Some days I can’t help to think… What if I started sooner with my therapy?
Anonymous, South Africa
Finance, HR & Payroll Manager
